New York, New York

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I figured since I’d gotten to see Lady Liberty in Paris on our honeymoon I should visit our own Statue of Liberty in New York.  So for our first wedding anniversary Burk let me choose New York City and Québec.  We arrived at the airport and some Russian guy approached us saying we could ride in his limo for the same price as a taxi … with no waiting.  We said sure like a couple of idiots and found ourselves in the bowels of the airport parking lot.  I was relieved to note some type of badge in the guy’s dash once we eventually made it.  He was really very nice and took us to our hotel in a white stretch limousine that reminded me of the one I wanted to take to prom in the ’80’s.  It really was something in a dated sort of way and turned heads for varying reasons I’m sure.  Our hotel was right by the UN and they had a federal officer with a drug sniffing dog checking everyone’s bags before they entered.  Much to my horror, the yellow Lab lingered and lingered over ours … to the point of humiliation.  She just wouldn’t stop!  I finally explained to the large, well-muscled, non-smiling man that we had wolves and cats and that must be why she was so interested.  Yeah, like that made it any better.  We were eventually cleared and our poor bellman took our well-snuffled luggage up to our room.  Much like our honeymoon when we headed straight to the Eiffel Tower that first day, we decided to begin our trip by going up the Empire State Building.  As I have mentioned previously, we are not ashamed to be tourists.  At 102 stories, the limestone structure was the tallest building in the world from 1931 until 1970.  I loved its Art Deco style and had no idea it was named one of the Seven Wonders of the Modern World.  The project involved 3,400 workers including hundreds of Mohawk iron workers, many from the Kahnawake reserve near Montreal.  We also saw the beautiful Grand Central Terminal with its Beaux-Arts style and intricate designs both inside and out.  I was surprised to learn it is one of the world’s most visited tourist attractions.  Burk’s paternal Grandmother used to live at the incredibly posh, very exclusive Sutton Square in the ’70’s for over 20 years and he knew the streets like the back of his hand.  As a girl coming from the wide open spaces of Texas, I felt a little hemmed in.  It was hard to see the sun with the tallness of the buildings and my eyes continually burned with everything seemingly under perpetual construction.  Still, we’d had a nice first day and I made friends with our doorman who was from Cuba.  He and I spoke about cigars at length and he seemed genuinely delighted to have found a fellow aficionado.  As we headed up the elevator I found myself praying our building wasn’t going to sway in the wind; we were up pretty high.  Kurt Vonnegut referred to New York City as “Skyscraper National Park”.  That was my view of it as well.

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What’s In A Name?

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Last year the day after Thanksgiving I found myself stunned standing in the middle of my driveway.  We had a relatively new postal carrier who saw me and stopped to ask something I cannot remember.  I’m pretty sure he was just checking to see if I was OK.  I had just received the most devastating phone call of my life only a few minutes earlier.  He was the first person I told that my mother had just passed away and I think he was debating whether or not to hug me.  That’s when I found out he was a Christian.  And the quiet conviction in his words affirmed what I already knew about eternal salvation.  I just remember looking into his eyes and trying to absorb his sincere strength, both in his unswerving faith in scripture and in his own personal fortitude.  My then three year old was with me and I was trying not to cry.  She loved her namesake and had been with me to visit my mother almost every day since the day she was born.  When I asked his name, he told me it was Churchill, “like Winston Churchill”.  I do not think that precious man will ever know what he did for me that day.  I was suddenly an orphan with no father, mother, or grandparents left.  And then I watched as he cast loving eyes on my child who is the embodiment, by God’s grace, of all of my blood who have already been called home.  I realized then God was showing me His goodness, mercifulness, and kindness in the midst of such incredible sorrow.  The angel He had sent to comfort me was standing right in front of me.  It really is true that kids and dogs know good people.  My little one took to him instantly.  He calls her sweetheart in a way that never fails to get me.  She looks for him every day with her little eyes, nose and hands pressed against the window and I have often had to stop the car so she can wave to him as he is going along our neighborhood route.  Winston Churchill said we make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.  I am blessed to say I know a great man named Churchill.  And I am grateful to God for putting him in our lives.  He is a daily reminder to me to be as happy, positive, and full of joy as he always is — in rain or shine.  As far as I’m concerned he is family and my daughter and I love him as such.  Seeing him each day is healing in a way I cannot explain.  He was kind and thoughtful enough to send back a card after we had given him one at Christmas.  It reads:

“Life is a lovely garden, An ever-growing thing, Where thoughtfulness and kindness bloom like flowers in the spring.”

God bless you and keep you Churchill.  You are a special man and certainly a great one.  I so hope you know you hold the heart of a little girl who lost her beloved grandmother over a year ago now.  She still remembers her and her grandfather, whom she never got to meet, in her prayers each and every night.  Angels walk amongst us; you, sir, are among His finest.

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Bonsai!

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We received a bonsai tree for Christmas.  I have always wanted one and particularly love ours because it has three main branches.  There are three in our little family and it also reminds me of the Holy Trinity.  In addition I like its shape because, according to Japanese tradition, the bonsai represents the three virtues of truth, goodness and beauty.  It is harmony in nature contained.  This is a Juniper, one of the top three species used for bonsais.  Apparently it is a favorite because of its natural flowing shape and slow growth habit.  The word “bonsai” is a Japanese pronunciation of an earlier Chinese term. “Penzai”, which literally means “tray plant”, stems from the ancient Chinese art of depicting elegantly formed trees and rocks in miniature landscape.  I am surprised and happy to report is the ONLY living thing in our house which our cats have not destroyed.  Even they must appreciate and respect its zen beauty.  I love to watch the water trickle by the rock each day as I water it.  A quietly peaceful addition to our house, it has been no trouble at all to keep.  Bonsai author John Yoshio Naka said, “There are no borders in bonsai.  The dove of peace flies to palace as to humble house, to young as to old, to rich and poor.  So does the spirit of bonsai.”

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Full Wolf Moon

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Last night was 2016’s Full Wolf Moon.  When I posted this pic on Facebook a friend from church was good enough to inquire as to its significance.  I thought how lovely it was of her to have taken the time to ask and to want to know.  So I decided to publish this for the benefit of anyone who might also be interested.  “Full Wolf Moon” is January’s full moon.  It got its name by some Native American tribes because at this time of year wolves would often howl in their search for prey which was scarce.  Food shortages in winter months meant they had to scavenge wherever they could and travel closer into villages.  I have full blood friends in many Indian nations but since I cannot say for sure to which tribe(s) it should be attributed I will only speak to what I know.  My paternal grandmother was Choctaw.  Each month has a name relating to the seasons and, later, also a Europeanized name since they were “colonized” by the French.  Until the early 1800’s, Choctaws used a calendar with the months based upon the phases of the moon.  The basic meaning of the word “hashi” (month) can also mean the moon, hashi ninak aya, “sun that travels at night”.  The year was divided into two segments:  hashtula, winter, and tofa, summer; each having six months.  Winter began around September 22, with Chafiskono, the autumnal equinox.  Summer began around March 22, with Tek i Hashi, the vernal equinox.  Listed below are the modern and older Choctaw names:

Hashtula – Winter:

October:  Aktoba  (Hochafo iskitini)  Little Hunger month

November:  Nofimba  (Hochafo chito)  Big Hunger month

December:  Tisimba  (Hashi koi chito)  Big lion month

January:  Chanueli  (Hashi koi nakfi sushi)  Lions’s little brother month

February:  Fibueli  (Hashi watonlak)  Crane month

March:  Macha  (Hashi mahli)  Wind month

Tofa – Summer:

April:  Eplil  (Tek i Hashi)  Women’s month

May:  Me  (Hashi Bihi)  Mulberry month

June:  Chuni  (Hashi Bissa)  Blackberry month

July:  Chuli (Hashi kati)  Sassafras month

August:  Akas  (Hashi Takkon)  Peach month

September:  Siptimba  (Hashi Hoponi)  Cooking month

Month names also sometimes vary now according to location:  Mississippi (Choctaw homeland), and Oklahoma, now a separate tribal nation.  They were the first to be forced to make the Long Walk on the “Trail of Tears” in 1831.  Driven out of their ancestral lands, they were marched by militia into what was then Indian territory to make way for white “settlers”.  Thousands died along the arduous journey as it was made during winter’s harsh sting.

“My friends, circumstances render it impossible that you can flourish in the midst of a civilized community. You have but one remedy within your reach, and that is to remove to the west. And the sooner you do this, the sooner you will commence your career of improvement and prosperity.” ~ President Andrew Jackson

Wolves, like Native peoples, are STILL treated abysmally all around our world every single day.  After centuries of willful, deliberate destruction of both by Europeans, one can only pray it will finally come to an end.  Achukma hoke.

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With Our Kiddo At The Club

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I did a lot of things with my folks growing up but going to a nightclub was not one of them, much less when I was four!  Now Dallas has a place they open up to families two Friday nights a month.  There was a party there last night as a fundraiser for my daughter’s school so I figured it would be a good time to check it out.  Maris and I looked at the matching stamps on our hands and grinned; it was a surreal moment.  Grown up drinks for Mommy and Daddy at the bar, juice for the kids to get wild and crazy, and a pizza truck provided sustenance for us all.  I thought the best fun was the light up stuff and goodies at the kiddie kiosk.  The great disappointment came in that there was no disco — only underground grunge.  For me disco harkens back to my rollerskating days when the world was mine; grunge makes me think of yet another date I had when I was single and went to some club I really didn’t like.  But what a joy to be on the lighted dance floor with my little girl.  And I have a sweet, handsome husband now who graciously got us food and drinks and showed us a good time.  My little one wore her twinkle toe light up shoes, glow necklaces, glow bracelets, and sported some of my ancient glow in the dark Hello Kitty glitter.  At the kiosk she got some sort of twirling flashlight thing that reminded me of when I used to go to the circus as a kid.  Then her friend gave her a balloon that lit up.  She really rocked it!  The New Yorker magazine writer James Thurber said, “There are two kinds of light — the glow that illuminates, and the glare that obscures.”  My girl MGM has a glow all on her own; the rest is just guilding the lily.

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First Trip To McDonald’s

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My little girl and I were celebrating and, on impulse, I decided to take her for the first time ever to McDonald’s.  This was the best one with a huge indoor play area that has kids scrambling through tunnels on the ceiling like little mice in a maze.  I got us a small order of fries and she had already disappeared inside the tubes.  “Mama!  Mama!  Look at me!”  I pretended not to know where she was and her girlish giggles were worth ingesting a small bit of non-organic food when I have been so vigilant in our family eating healthy.  I took this picture standing on the floor pointing my camera directly up two stories toward the ceiling.  I love seeing her still-little hands peeking through and catching a glimpse of her beautiful dark eyes and curly hair.  I finally convinced her to come down and eat some fries which she loved.  “I TOLD you they’re the best!” I said in a smug tone I don’t often adopt.  It was so weird, having to explain to her about the Hamburglar and Ronald McDonald.  I had spent the early years of my life there but those were different times.  My first job was at McDonald’s when I was 15.  I had given her an old whistle I’d found awhile back and she exclaimed when she recognized it painted on the window.  It was a Fry Guy.  I remember the outdoor playground with the merry-go-round that I loved all through my teenage years.  Contrasting that, I looked up into the hamster tubes and the claustrophobic in me prayed I would not have to go up and rescue her.  But my girl is fearless and I should have known it would not be an issue.  When we left she was swinging my hand and said she had liked “Old MacDonald’s”.  I’m still waiting for the proverbial farm to get a decent, non-GMO veggie burger.  The world has changed and I found myself hoping they would change with it.

“Until he extends the circle of his compassion to all living things, man will not himself find peace.” ~ Albert Schweitzer, philosopher, physician, and Nobel Peace Prize winner for “Reverence for Life.”

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Our Hyacinth

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About two weeks ago I got a hyacinth bulb at the grocery store.  I wanted the blue but of course got pink because it’s my little one’s favorite color.  It’s in a clear vase so you can see all the roots and the bulb resting on the top is purple.  After bringing it home and showing it to Maris she didn’t seem too impressed.  She just saw a big bulb and four green things sticking out of it resembling giant blades of grass.  The first several mornings I would explain to her that a bloom was coming.  Then before the week was out she shrieked, “Mama!  Mama!  Come look!  COME LOOK!” and there was the tiniest still-green bud in the center that reminded me somewhat of corn.  The next day it was taller, and by the next it was definitely showing signs of pink.  We named her Hyacinth and I couldn’t help but think of Hyacinth Bucket (“‘it’s pronounced ‘Bouquet'”) of “Keeping Up Appearances Fame”.  I told Maris that Hyacinth would have a sweet smell when she bloomed that would fill the whole room.  I’m not sure why I thought it would take longer.  One day it was a bulb and then overnight it just sprouted and started blooming.  That’s what my little one is doing now; she’s budding and blossoming into the great woman she will one day become.  In the blink of an eye …

“Bloom like a flower; unfold your own beauty.” ~ American author Dr. Debasish Mridha

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Our Last Day In Venice

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This was the last day of our honeymoon.  Burk and I had loved it and we found that we traveled great together.  It was a day filled with laughs.  First, we discovered pay toilets.  That was bad enough (and beyond gross) until the prudes in us realized the bathroom was unisex.  Thinking back of how round our eyes were I’m quite sure we did not look particularly sophisticated.  Next came lunch.  I have been a vegetarian for years for animal ethics reasons and have been squeamish since childhood over dead critters on plates.  I will NEVER forget the look on Burk’s face when the fish he ordered arrived staring back at him from the platter — he looked absolutely horrified.  So he resorted to frantic hand gestures trying to convey to please have it deboned.  I guess the waiter figured it out judging by the wan green color he saw that washed all over my new husband’s face.  Afterward we headed out to Murano Island to see the world famous glass making factory.  It was so incredibly hot I had as much admiration for the man’s centuries-old skill in blowing glass as I did for his tolerance to the extreme heat.  They had two showrooms.  The first was more of a display gallery for folks able to drop a TON of money on big pieces.  What I resented though is we were each assigned a “handler” who followed us individually EVERYwhere.  I understood them wanting to protect their wares but this was truly offensive.  I could not turn around without literally bumping into the woman who was tailing me.  When I asked if they had anything less expensive the woman smirked and directed me to what was simply a nice gift shop where they had smaller things like Christmas ornaments, vases, and paperweights.  I got a dark blue bird and believe me it wasn’t cheap.  Ha!  Cheep!  Punny and I didn’t know it.  Anyway, after touring and shopping we headed back to the main island and passed under the ever-watchful winged lion perched high atop the city.  Pictured here is the famous Rialto Bridge.  One of four that span the Grand Canal, it is also the oldest, having been completed in 1591, and was the dividing line between the districts of San Marco and San Polo.  That night we ate on the water’s edge right where this picture was taken.  We watched the sun set and met a couple in their 80’s who had not been to Venice since their honeymoon.  I remember thinking I hoped we would be like them:  still traveling, still active and, most importantly, still in love.  Of course we could not leave without taking a gondola ride.  I found the one guy who knew a little French and tried to haggle with/cajole him probably to no avail.  Ready for this?  It was over 200 euros — 200 EUROS!!!  Highway robbery but I felt to leave without having ridden Venice’s canals would have been the bigger crime.  We passed another gondola where the man was singing.  A churlish part of me wondered if they’d had to pay extra.  We knew it was time for us to go to our new home and start our everyday lives together.  Canadian entrepreneur Guy Laliberté said:

“I am blessed for what I have, but I believed in it from the beginning.  Today, the dream is the same:  I still want to travel, I still want to entertain, and I most certainly still want to have fun.”

The same holds true for me.

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St. Mark’s Basilica And The Campanile

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Next we headed to where I had been looking forward to seeing most in Venice — St. Mark’s Basilica.  My father’s name was Mark and I adore Byzantine iconography.  We were in the heart of Venice at the Piazza San Marco.  Since I do not have any pictures of the interior, I must have blocked out the memory that picture taking was forbidden.  I can understand prohibiting the use of flash photography due to preservation issues, but it frankly irks me not to be able to (respectfully) photograph inside a house of God.  The first thing that struck me were the stunning dark blue and ground gold mosaics that reached all the way to the top of the high domes.  The interior was based upon Constantine’s Church of the Holy Apostles.  Vast marble floors were covered in animal designs which of course I loved as well as intricate geometric patterns.  It all felt very Eastern.  I heard the basilica was referred to as “the Church of Gold”.  I kept thinking to myself, as we were shuffled along like cattle, it still felt like gold was being extracted repeatedly from each of its visitors.  One could hear the steady “chink chink”, “chink chink” reverberating to the ceiling from people doling out to visit this place or that around the naves.  I didn’t see anyone praying and it felt more like a museum than a holy place of worship.  Finally herded to the stairway, we were able to go outside onto the balcony.  It was there I was able to take pictures of the great bronze Horses of St. Mark that face the square which were installed above the portal of the basilica in about 1254.  They date to classical antiquity and were long displayed at the Hippodrome of Constantinople.  In 1204 the Doge at the time had them sent back to Venice as part of the loot sacked from the Fourth Crusade.  I pray the feel of this church has changed since 2007.  Leaving the steady sounds of clanking coins behind, we headed out into the bright noon day sun.  Pigeons were everywhere and I thought THIS was how I had always imagined Italy.  An Italian bride and groom were being photographed in the middle of the famous St. Mark’s square surrounded by all those birds.  Next we headed up the iconic Bell Tower of Saint Mark and ascended the 323 foot tall campanile where a loggia surrounded a belfry.  One used to announce executions, the Nona sounded midday, and the largest rang to signal the beginning and ending of working days.  The campanile’s initial construction was in the 9th century and was used as a watch tower for the dock.  After taking in views of the ocean and basilica, we headed back down into the plaza.  Water sloshed up to my ankles and I marveled that the tide had rolled in and spilled over onto the square.  Deciding to have a cold drink, our jaws hit the ground upon discovering there was a fee JUST TO SIT, an extra fee for ordering food, another fee if one wanted to be inside with air conditioning, plus several other nonsensical add ons including 20% gratuity for essentially being ignored.  Venice is a tourist’s down, and they didn’t seem to like tourists.  Funny how Parisians have gotten a bad rap for being rude when it was definitely the Venetians.  Our money was being drained at a mind numbing pace.  So we split one tiny bottle of Coke with a lemon and I kid you not it ran almost 15 euros!  Ice was extra.  Novelist Roman Payne said:

“Cities were always like people, showing their varying personalities to the traveler.  Depending on the city and on the traveler, there might begin a mutual love, or dislike, friendship, or enmity.  Where one city will rise a certain individual to glory, it will destroy another who is not suited to its personality.  Only through travel can we know where we belong or not, where we are loved and where we are rejected.”

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The Doge’s Palace And Bridge Of Sighs

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Despite the swankiness (and pants wetting cost) of our room it only had a tiny shower.  So I was thrilled to discover the extra bowl next to the toilet in which to shave my legs.  That’s right — the bidet.  😜  Plumbing would prove to be a recurring theme throughout our time here.  We had notices placed in our bathroom glasses saying NOT to drink the tap water under any circumstances — even to use for brushing our teeth.  So they provided little bottles of water solely for the purposes of dental hygiene.  It was not just our hotel; all water had to be purified before consumption.  Burk wanted to begin the day by visiting the Doge’s Palace just a stone’s throw away from our hotel off the Piazza San Marco.  Built in the Venetian Gothic style, it is one of the main landmarks of the city.  Once the residence of the Doge of Venice, the supreme authority of the former Republic of Venice, it opened as a museum in 1923.  The Republic of Venice was a major maritime power during the Middle Ages and the Renaissance.  It served as a staging area for the Crusades as well as a very important center of commerce.  Silk, grain, spice and art from the 13th century up to the end of the 17th century made Venice a wealthy city throughout most of its history.  While we were standing in line to get in, an old, hunched over gypsy woman with one scrunched up eye wearing a head scarf was going up and down the line begging with a can.  I have never minded giving money to anyone who was doing SOMEthing; whether it be singing, posing for pictures, playing an instrument, or just being kind in giving directions.  But my daddy often said one could always find some way to work.  So when she got to me I smiled genuinely and said, “No, grazie.”  She then began a tirade where she proceeded to jab her gnarled finger in my face and started raining down what I truly believe were curses upon my head.  She got so worked up spittle flecked from her mouth onto my face as she was standing so close.  Like an idiot I just stood there and kept smiling at her.  It lasted about three minutes and she became progressively louder, gesticulating wildly.  Truly, it was like something out of a Grimm’s fairytale.  I do believe there is evil.  If something like that ever happens again I have vowed to rebuke them and make the sign of the cross.  On another cheery note, pictured above is the famous Bridge of Sighs which we also visited that day.  It spans the Rio di Palazzo (Palace River) and was intended to connect the old prison and interrogation rooms in the palace to the new prison situated directly across the river.  There are a couple of theories as to how the bridge got its name.  The first involves the prisoners that walked across on their way to the executioner who were said to sigh, probably catching their last glimpse of the outside world.  Another story says that if a couple kisses under the bridge at sunset they will enjoy eternal love.  Thus the sighs are said to come from lovers.  This romantic view was created by the Poet Lord Byron with his writings:  “I stood in Venice on the Bridge of Sighs, a palace and prison on each hand.”  The bridge itself was beautiful stretching high above the canal.  Composed of white limestone, it is generally known as one of the finest examples of bridge architecture in the world.  A mix of grandeur and a kind of Godless desolation seemed to hang over the entire city.  I couldn’t help but think of Paris being called The City of Light.  In Venice, I believe we’d found our contrast.

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